21ST CENTURY RELATIONSHIPS: Hitting your Sex Occurrence Quotas.

Well, that’s one approach to maintenance sex.

UPDATE: I’m leaving out the names even though they didn’t request it. But a female reader emails:

Let me tell you, the “quickie” saved my marriage. I read about it in the book “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” years ago where the author explains how important the sex act is to the man and that the woman should give into the quickie.

Best…I mean BEST…sex advice I ever received!!! Long live the quickie!!

Meanwhile, a male reader writes:

While our “N” of 1 (or, more accurately, 2!) can hardly prove or disprove the authors’ thesis, I completely concur with their view, as does my wife.

We are both psychiatrists, who started out as family doctors, and have been together for 38 years, happily married for 36 of those, and have raised our four male children, all of whom turned out healthy, prosperous and well (thank God!).

We have been blessed throughout with a gloriously happy sexual relationship, where the male partner clearly “needs it” more often that the female partner, but far from creating tension or dissatisfaction, coming to grips (as it were!) with this difference has enriched the relationship, and both of us could not be happier.

We both agree that our relationship has also, as a sort of bonus, made it possible for us to help couples in our work who are having conflict in their sex lives.

I doubt that many people get divorced because they’re having sex too often.

ANOTHER UPDATE: Okay, she actually asks that I not use her name:

Yep, you helped our marriage, too. After seeing the book that you mentioned, my husband bought it for me (us?). Then, maybe six months ago, you also linked to some guy who blogged about having sex like every day of his fifteen year marriage, or something. Anyway, it hit me that his wife just never said no. So I thought, as an experiment, I’d just not say no. Not necessarily be the initiator, but never say no. I have to tell you my husband is probably the happiest man I know. I’m not exactly unhappy, either. I have come the the conclusion that women vastly, vastly underestimate the good they can do for the men they love by just saying yes.

It’s funny–you don’t blog about sex too much, but it is very effective when you do! Keep up the good work, on all fronts.

Doing my best here.

MORE:

Please withhold name, of course!

Hi Glenn,
My husband and I assume that we’ll have sex every night (he’s an early riser, so this means that if I have any project to do in the evening, I do it after we have sex and he falls asleep). That’s one of the “big rocks” in our daily jar. If a day is missed here or there, it’s ok because there is plenty of opportunity. I think it has a very positive effect on our overall well-being, and keeps a close, affectionate bond between us.

Needless to say, his first wife maintained an “artificial shortage” to keep up the imagined value of sex with her. That’s hell on a man with a strong drive.

Perhaps that has something to do with her status as first wife.

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Confirmation bias wiki

Work on this some more…

• Steven Ratner of MSNBC @ July 29th “form of economic terrorism… strapped with dynamite”
• Margaret Clarlson of Bloomberg @ July 31 “strapped explosives to the capital
• Chris Mathews – MSNBC “wahabis of American government”
• Tina Brown – Editor Chief Newsweek “suicide bombers”
• Thomas Friedman New York Times “Hezbolah”
• Peter Goodman of Huffington Post “Terrorist”
• William Yeomans of Politco & a law professor “Full blown terrorist”
• Fareed Zakaria Editor of Newsweek “blow up the country”
• Paul Krugman they want to blow up the economy
• David Brooks of New York Times (their “conservative”) says: “no sense of moral decency”
• Vice President Joe Biden “Acting Like terrorists”
• Van Jones on the Tea Party: They had a “Gun to the head of 365 million americans… we blow your dreams away”
• Michael Eric Dyson “gun of presidents head”
• Joe Nocera NYTs “waged Jihad”
• Mike Doyle (D-Pa.) who said Democrats ‘have negotiated with terrorists,’ Politico.com reported. ‘This small group of terrorists have made it impossible to spend any money,’

So much for the Presidents call to tone it down after Arizona Massacre….

The U.S. Department of Justice recently released its first-ever estimate of the number of inmates who are sexually abused in America each year. According to the department’s data, which are based on nationwide surveys of prison and jail inmates as well as young people in juvenile detention centers, at least 216,600 inmates were victimized in 2008 alone. Contrary to popular belief, most of the perpetrators were not other prisoners but staff members—corrections officials whose job it is to keep inmates safe. On average, each victim was abused between three and five times over the course of the year. The vast majority were too fearful of reprisals to seek help or file a formal complaint.

and this:

17,100 of them, in juvenile detention. Overall, that’s almost six hundred people a day—twenty-five an hour.

The emphasis is added, the link is here.

Given the number of video camera’s in prison systems (and how cheap they are) this number is also a bit shocking (NY Book Review):

But perhaps more shocking is that even when authorities confirmed that corrections staff had sexually abused inmates in their care, only 42 percent of those officers had their cases referred to prosecution; only 23 percent were arrested, and only 3 percent charged, indicted, or convicted. Fifteen percent were actually allowed to keep their jobs.

Reminds me of a quote: “If total government control equals safety, why are prisons so dangerous?” Of course you could edit the quote to add Mao, Stalin and Hitler.

FULL DOJ report can be found here (PDF).

h/t marginal revolution:

Other info:

Prison Rape and the Government, March 24, 2011, David Kaiser and Lovisa Stannow
Prison Rape: Still a Problem. Government: Still Not All That Concerned About It. Radley Balko | March 9, 2011

A Politico reporter who often penned stories about Sarah Palin and other Republicans has quit journalism to work with the Democratic Party in Arizona

and this:

But have any left Politico to work for a Republican? “I don’t know of any, but haven’t made any effort to keep track of where folks land,” Harris said.

While at Politico, Barr was a prolific writer of stories about Palin, including more recent ones titled: “Sarah Palin’s political mystery tour,” “So unfav: Palin’s poll plunge” and “Sarah Palin on Barack Obama speech: ‘WTF’.”

Read more: http://dailycaller.com/2011/07/20/politico-reporter-who-covered-palin-quits-for-democratic-party-job/#ixzz1Snz9cB54

TO DO: Expand this post to list revolving door of newsweek, time, NYT, wapost, etc…..

Same with Wallstreet and the federal reserve.

Source:

Politico reporter who covered Palin quits for Democratic Party job
Published: 6:11 PM 07/20/2011 | Updated: 8:43 AM 07/21/2011

Read more: http://dailycaller.com/2011/07/20/politico-reporter-who-covered-palin-quits-for-democratic-party-job/#ixzz1SnyXpWbB

In a Saturday morning radio address, Sen. John McCain said his administration would give every family a $5,000 tax credit to buy their own health insurance or keep their current plan. “And we will open up the national health care market to expand choices and improve quality,” he said.

Obama, speaking at a rally in Newport News, Virginia, said it’s not that McCain “doesn’t care” about what people are going through, “I just think he doesn’t know.”

“That’s the only reason I can think of that he’d propose a health care plan that is so radical, so out of touch with what you’re facing and so out of line with our basic values.”

Interestingly enough Jason Furman, Deputy Director of the National Economic Council for Barack Obama, wrote this in early 2008 (PDF):

The most promising way to move forward in all three dimensions – coverage, cost, and long-run fiscal situation – is to replace the employer exclusion with a tax credit, a step that has
been proposed many times before (e.g., Butler 1991 and Pauly and Hoff 2002).

Furman was an economic advisor for John Kerry and Al Gore as well. So the fact that Furman’s plan, which is identical to John McCain’s, is labeled as “radical” is a bit ironic. The Butler 1991 paper that Furman referenced as supporting the tax credit plan was published in the Journal of the
American Medical Association. The Pauly and Hoff paper was published by American Enterprise Institute. Also, the Nobel Laureate Milton Friedman supported a similar plan in his book “Freedom To Choose”. A book that is well worth reading. In other words, there are major players in every end of the political spectrum that support this plan.
The only question I have is why would Obama turn his back on his own advisors? Was it political incentives like those that pushed Nixon to turn his back on his advisors and enact damaging price controls? Or was it true-believer ideology?

As a side note, I’d love to see Nate Silver’s reaction to this.
Hat Tip: Harvard’s Gregory Mankiw

Sources:
CNN, Obama blasts McCain’s health care plan as ‘out of touch’, October 04, 2008
Butler, Stuart M. 1991. “A tax reform strategy to deal with the uninsured.” Journal of the
American Medical Association 265 (19).
Pauly, Mark and John Hoff. 2002. Responsible Tax Credits for Health Insurance. Washington,
D.C.: AEI Press.

Reforming the Tax Treatment of Health Care: Right Ways and Wrong Ways
Jason Furman, Senior Fellow and Director of The Hamilton Project
The Brookings Institution, February 24, 2008

CHANGE: Poll Finds a Shift Toward More Libertarian Views. “Libertarianism has been touted as the wave of America’s political future for many years, generally with more enthusiasm than evidence. But there are some tangible signs that Americans’ attitudes are in fact moving in that direction.” Well, as the political class gets more obviously inept, people’s faith in them is bound to gradually dry up.

When Nate Silver admits to something he doesn’t like, there’s a good chance it’s true.

Here’s what Robert A. Heinlein felt about bad economic luck:

“Throughout history, poverty is the normal condition of man. Advances which permit this norm to be exceeded- here and there, now and then- are the work of an extremely small minority, frequently despised, often condemned, and almost always opposed by all right-thinking people. Whenever this tiny minority is kept from creating, or (as sometimes happens) is driven out of a society, the people then slip back into abject poverty.This is known as ‘bad luck.’.”

Yale Professor Stephen L. Carter agrees:

The man in the aisle seat is trying to tell me why he refuses to hire anybody. His business is successful, he says, as the 737 cruises smoothly eastward. Demand for his product is up. But he still won’t hire.

“Why not?”

“Because I don’t know how much it will cost,” he explains. “How can I hire new workers today, when I don’t know how much they will cost me tomorrow?”

He’s referring not to wages, but to regulation: He has no way of telling what new rules will go into effect when. His business, although it covers several states, operates on low margins. He can’t afford to take the chance of losing what little profit there is to the next round of regulatory changes. And so he’s hiring nobody until he has some certainty about cost.